It’s the little things that will make the greatest impact in your marriage and in your heart.
Think about it. You hardly see each other. You hardly speak to each other. We live fast-paced lives that consume our time and attention. Those “big” moments are hard to produce, but the little things are quick and easy to produce over and over. Just a couple of thoughts….
- When your spouse comes home – stop what you are doing and greet them. Give them a hug and a kiss. Be intentional
- Surprise them with a treat that they would love
- Call them on your lunch break – just because and see how their day is going
- Leave notes in random places for them
- Fill their car up with gas
Pay attention to the little things. You might be surprise with all the ideas that you come up with.
And then…stay consistent even through those difficult moments between the two of you. Yes. I get it. You might not be getting along in the moment. Too bad. God loves you despite your difficulties. And I have found that staying consistent helps me maintain the right perspective in my heart.
Be Strong. Act Like Men.
“This will remain the land of the free only so long as it is the home of the brave” – Elmer Davis
It is Veteran’s Day in the United States. It is a day when we take a moment to pause and remember the sacrifice of those men and women that have served their country. I am honored and blessed to know many of these men and women including several family members.
Pray for our men and women who are on the front lines. Pray for the families left behind.
Thank you for your service.
Have you ever thought about grapes being turned into wine? Can you imagine what it would be like to be one of those grapes?
Yes….it is odd. You’ve met me…so play along with me here for a moment.
Can you imagine what it would be like to be plucked, pushed, crushed, pressed, skinned, and fermented? That’s got to hurt. What’s the point of it all?
A lot of people feel that way about the pain they experience in their marriage. “Why am I doing this? Where is this relationship going?” But just as a grape goes through a difficult process before it becomes a fine wine, sometimes our marriage has to go through a painful process before it matures.
The people who have the best marriages are not people who grew up well-adjusted, have healthy adult lives, and normal parents. People like that usually have good marriages.
The greatest marriages are between those who were crushed, who went through a painful process, and who built their relationship from the ruins of broken hearts.
“Those who sow in tears will reap harvest in glad song.” Psalm 126:5
And so it is that pain is often the preview to pleasure. No pain. No gain.
Don’t believe me….if your wife has experienced child birth, then she can testify to this truth.
Be Strong. Act Like Men.
In his hand are the depths of the earth, and the mountain peaks belong to him. The sea is his, for he made it, and his hands formed the dry land – Psalm 95:4-5
I love being outdoors. It can be sitting out back in the morning with a cup of coffee listening to the birds. It can be sitting on a beach or backpacking through the mountains. I have found by simply being outside and being present in the silence of the early morning that I have felt God’s presence. It has been through that silence and calm that I have been able to discern His message and desire for my life, my marriage and my family. I have learned that it isn’t difficult to hear God’s voice if I create the right moment to stop and listen.
I was in Denver Colorado with my wife a couple of weeks ago. It was a trip to visit friends and explore a part of the United States that we had not seen. Our travels included two days in the front range of the Rocky Mountains. I was struck by the rugged beauty of the landscape. We stopped at the Gross Reservoir. It was very cold and the wind speed was very strong. I found myself standing alone in a state of awe. I didn’t feel the cold or hear the wind. I was consumed by the beauty of God’s creation and the realization that I am blessed to live it every day.
The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” – Genesis 2:18
I’d like to share a moment with you. It’s a moment looking back that I can clearly see embarrassed my wife in front a co-worker.
We were crossing a street at the crosswalk. We had the right of way meaning that cars needed to yield to pedestrians. We were in the middle of the crosswalk. We were nearly struck by a car because the driver decided that he was going to go through. I immediately verbalized my frustration to the driver while stepping toward the vehicle.
And we know immediately those moments where we have upset our wives. I knew it. I tried to play it cool. And then later…I attempted to defend myself over my actions which simply compounded the frustration my wife felt.
Next morning…I apologized for embarrassing her. She accepted my apology, and then in a strong, loving and caring manner challenged me to handle myself different in those moments. It was a defining moment for me. It created such a power moment in my heart for her.
God saw that it was not good for man to be alone. Years from now when I look back…this moment…this help…this encouragement…will be remembered as a moment where God once again show His presence in my life through my wife’s love and her desire for me to pursue Him.
Be Strong. Act Like Men.
Have you ever considered how you might approach you job differently if God was your immediate supervisor?
Part of me thinks that it would be great; and then there is the part of me that finds the thought disconcerting.
It is our duty as Christians to do our jobs well. If you reported to God – what changes would you make in your day. If you were God’s manager – what changes would you make in your leadership?
Shouldn’t we be approaching our jobs as if we work for or work with God? After all…isn’t He the one we ultimately should be answering to everyday? Isn’t it God that has given us our gifts and talents. Isn’t it God that is the greatest voice of encouragement?
Just a little food for thought this morning……
Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving – Colossians 3:23-24
Life is full of challenges. It can be a grind. What do you do when you feel overwhelmed by it all? How do you keep anxiety, frustration and despair from controlling everything? You stand your ground in Christ and ask for His help because only He can protect you from the enemy’s attacks.
“Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you” – James 4:7