Man with a plan…

If you haven’t read Tony Dungy’s books; then I would recommend getting them. Tony Dungy talks about having a plans and says that you wouldn’t think about going into an NFL game on Sunday without properly preparing throughout the week. ”We do things with our lives we wouldn’t dream of doing on the football field,” says Dungy, referring to men having a lack of a plan for life. Unfortunately, too many men go into daily life as a man, dad and husband with no plan as to how to get the job done. And with no vision for where men want to go with their lives in those roles, it’s almost impossible to do it well.

So what is your plan? Will you take the next step and start to plan for succeeding in the important role of leading your family? It may be by reading the game plan (God’s Word), casting a vision for your family’s future in the areas of finances, your marriage, spiritual discipline, or helping devise household guidelines in areas like the use of computer and the programs that are watched, dating and purity and all the other areas that a man needs to have a plan for his family to succeed. It may feel overwhelming at times. Remember Tony Dungy didn’t do it all by himself. He surrounded himself with the best coaches he could find. That’s where we make so many of our mistakes. We don’t plan and then we don’t ask for help when we try to put a plan together. Surround yourself with other like-minded men and encourage each other in this arena.

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Talking a Walk

“Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3

I’ve been considering its application to my relationship with my wife. It reinforces the hierarchy of the relationships in a marriage and family. We must – first walk with Christ. We must – second walk with our spouse. If we fail in either of these areas; then we are not going to be successful leading our marriage or family.

Our marriages involve two imperfect people that are not always compatible. Conflict is inevitable. You and your spouse will not always be in agreement. In these moments – we need to love and respect each other as God’s commands us to do; and then leave room for God to move in our marriage and family. It is important that you walk together with your spouse. It is even more important to walk with God.

“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12

Planting a Garden

It’s spring time. It’s time to start planning the garden. Planting beds need to be prepared. Seed needs to be purchased. It takes purpose and preparation to grow a successful garden.

I love growing a garden. I always enjoy taking a simple seed, planting it and nurturing it. It is amazing to have a single seed produce so many vegetables. Your wife’s heart is like soil in a garden. Nurture it every day with loving words and actions, or it will not produce very much in return.

PS – if you want to reap tomatoes, then you don’t plant corn.

Cow Manure

Have you ever questioned God’s purpose in your life? Have you ever wondered why God is allowing a struggle or hardship in your life to occur? How about getting discouraged or condemning yourself over the challenges that you are facing? Do you sometime simply feel like manure?

I know that I have felt this way at times, but…….

….even a pile of crap can have a purpose!

Bring me a cow patty, a cow pie, a cow chip…..a meadow muffin!

That’s right! A cow patty has many uses. It can be dried and used as fuel. It can be used to create methane gas generating electricity and heat. It can be used as a cheap insulator. It can be used in the adobe of a mud brick house. All interesting uses. We’ve most likely used cow manure in our gardens to amend the soil and produce new life.

Do you see where I am heading?

God can take the manure in our lives and make all things work together for good.

Be Strong. Act Like Men.

Good Friday

Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” And they divided up His clothes by casting lots. The people stood watching, and the rulers even sneered at Him. They said, “He saved others; let Him save Himself if He is God’s Messiah, the Chosen One.” The soldiers also came up and mocked Him. They offered Him wine vinegar and said, “If You are the king of the Jews, save Yourself.” There was a written notice above Him, which read: this is the king of the Jews. One of the criminals who hung there hurled insults at Him: “Aren’t You the Messiah? Save Yourself and us!” But the other criminal rebuked him. “Don’t you fear God,” he said, “since you are under the same sentence? We are punished justly, for we are getting what our deeds deserve. But this man has done nothing wrong.” Then he said, “Jesus, remember me when You come into Your kingdom.” Jesus answered him, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with Me in paradise.” — Luke 23:34-43

Praying for your wife

“Whatever you don’t pray about in your life you leave up to chance. And that’s not good enough when it comes to your marriage and family. So there is virtually nothing that you shouldn’t consider praying for and praying about. “

Do you pray with your wife?

It is important as husbands to pray with our wives. It helps solidify the love we have for them. It builds intimacy in the marriage. Skeptical? Let’s check the statistics:

1) About one-third of all marriages between active Christian couples who attend a church at least once a week end in divorce.

2) The divorce rate of active Christian couples who regularly pray together is less than 1 percent.

We don’t have to be Bible scholars. We don’t have to be eloquent. We just need to be sincere and intentional.

Here are a couple ideas of things to pray for with your wife:

Thanks, Praise, and Blessings – Thank God for his unconditional love for the two of you. Thank him for blessing you with your marriage, and your family.

Pray for Today – Ask God to be with you today and ask for His guidance, strength, and protection each day.

Pray for Forgiveness – It is important to ask for forgiveness of each other’s sins. You need to feel open and honest as you bring your concerns to the Lord. Ask that any conflict between you and your husband is reconciled.

Pray for Your Marriage – Ask God for peace and harmony in your marriage. Ask for oneness that becomes stronger each day. Pray that each of you will make your marriage a priority and stay free from conflict and strife.

Pray for your Wife – Pray that you will love your wife, cherish her, and take care of her needs above your own. Ask that God fulfils the desires in her heart and guides as she pursues her interests. Pray for your wife’s emotions and ask for God to protect your wife from thoughts that make her feel depressed, sad, angry, resentful, anxious, or that would fill her with self-doubt. Ask God to help her grow as a wife and mother in a way that brings her more joy and fulfillment.

Pray for Your Children – Ask God to watch over your children and keep your relationship with them strong and loving. Ask God to keep them out of harm’s way and bring Godly people into their lives. Ask that God help you be an example of wisdom, patience, and love to them. Ask God to help you make your family your top priority.

It’s Spring Time…

It’s spring time. It’s time to start planning the garden. Planting beds need to be prepared. Seed needs to be purchased. It takes purpose and preparation to grow a successful garden.

I love growing a garden. I always enjoy taking a simple seed, planting it and nurturing it. It is amazing to have a single seed produce so many vegetables. Your wife’s heart is like soil in a garden. Nurture it every day with loving words and actions, or it will not produce very much in return.

PS – if you want to reap tomatoes, then you don’t plant corn.