Summer Vacation Schedule

“Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” – Mark 6:31

Summer Vacation! A time to get away, rest and enjoy time spent with those that you love. It is important to step back and focus the blessings that God has provided in your lives. We are going to do just that. Our attention will be placed on our wives and our families for the next couple of weeks.

Last week….we shared some of the most popular posts.

This week….find the posts that were the most encouraging to you; and then leave a comment about them.

Be Strong. Act Like Men.

Most Popular Post Countdown – #1

#1 Romantic Need of Your Wife

“To be spiritually ministered to by her man”

He writes: “A woman wants a man eager to be her protector, someone who cares not just about her security and physical needs but also (and even more importantly) about her spirituality, the well-being of her very soul.

A husband can be a spiritual protector and advocate for his wife by praying with and for her daily, putting his arms around her, and saying, “I want to ask God to bless you. I want to take any needs you have in your life right now to the Lord. And I’m going to pray for you throughout this day.” A wise husband takes the lead in sharing Scripture and eagerly initiating conversation on spiritual issues.

A husband can contribute to his wife’s spiritual well-being by giving her some time to pursue her spiritual growth. For example, he might watch their child while she attends an evening Bible study.”

Be a student of your wife. Pray about her fears, worries and desires. Ask her – what you can pray about for her today. Don’t overlook the importance of building your own relationship with God. It is crucial that you take the initiative to study God’s word and understand His expectations of your role as a husband.

Don’t know what to pray for or even how to start. I would encourage you to check out “Power of a Praying Husband” by Stormie Omartian. It is a great book. It will give you insight how to start.

Guys – however you decide to start – make sure you start. It will change your marriage.

Be Strong. Act Like Men.

Most Popular Post Countdown – #2

Are you still dating your wife?

If not, you should be. Remember those days early on in your relationship before you were married or maybe even just after? Remember the way it felt to have someone be the focus of all your attention, mentally, emotionally, physically? Remember all the Corny things you would do to make her feel special or for one chance to get her to notice you? Remember all the creative things you would do just to spend one more hour with her? Are you still doing those things? If you’re anything like me and have been married long enough then jobs, kids activities, and the general business of our daily lives has prevented you from continuing to date your wife, but it shouldn’t. The enemy is very skilled at finding ways to get between you and your wife and using the daily mundane structure of our lives is one of his most used tools. Well it’s time to recognize that and do something about it. My wife and I recently sent our oldest off to college and in doing so have found a whole new schedule around our lives and are being very intentional to take a good portion of that time to ‘date’ again.

Get back that relationship you had early in your marriage or when you were courting. Make it a priority to ‘date’ your wife. Don’t ever give up making her feel like everyday is a new and exciting day to be in a relationship with you. Show her how important she is by cultivating and guarding the woman that God has entrusted you with. You know your wife better than anyone else, you know what she will like and what will work but if you need any ideas here are a few dating tips to kick start your creativity (some content of list taken from familylife.com).

1. Make a list of ten things your wife loves to do. Each new time you take your wife on a date, do one of those ten things as your date.

2. Do the classic date: dinner and a show. Take your wife to din­ner and to a movie she wants to watch.

3. Write a love note to your wife. Tell her all over again what she means to you.

4. Spend an evening stargazing with your wife and talking about dreams you have for the future.

5. Devote the next month to studying a book of the Bible with your wife. Take twenty minutes several nights a week to read, discuss, and pray through a shorter book such as Ephesians or Philippians.

6. Hold your wife’s hand often, in public and in private.

7. Tell your wife that you love her. Tell your wife that Jesus loves her more than you do. Pray with her.

8. Set a weekly date night. Each week rotate going out and stay­ing in for your date night.

9. Cancel work for the day and do something special with your wife.

10. Cut something from your schedule and use that time to date your wife.

Be Strong. Act Like Men.

Most Popular Post Countdown – #3

We share a Facebook page…..my wife and I. We took my existing page; and then converted it. We have mutual friends, friends from high school and college. Only challenge…when we start leaving each other comments to status updates. It looks like we are talking to ourselves…which is funny. We like it. It has been fun.

A single guy at work thought it was a ridiculous idea. He suggested that I was not “in control” of my marriage and that I had given up my privacy to my wife. It was at work, so I simply left him with this – it was my decision to open my Facebook page to my wife to build trust between us. I’ve been thinking about this conversation and reading articles about it. Here are a couple of headlines:

Facebook a top cause of relationship trouble, say U.S. lawyers
Facebook

Facebook often leads to divorce

Facebook contributes to 20% of all divorce

Now – it’s not Facebook. It is the Facebook users. It is the behavior of the user.

Facebook, texting, smart phones, emails are all ways to exclude our spouse from our lives. Would you find it acceptable to allow your spouse to invite a “friend” of the opposite sex to visit your home and retreat into a room behind a closed door; and then have a private conversation? It is not appropriate to take this action; however we justify the behavior because it is Facebook? It is not okay to take this type of action. Plain and simple.

What? So…you think you are entitled to your privacy?

If you are not willing to allow your wife into every part of your life; then that is not privacy – that’s called secrecy. And secrecy it not acceptable in a marriage. Privacy – that might not be the right thing either. Tiger Woods had a yacht named – “Privacy”. We know how that turned out.

Most Popular Post Countdown – #4

John Ritter starred in a show called “8 Simple Rules”. The rules were:

1. Use your hands on my daughter and you’ll lose them after.
2. You make her cry, I make you cry.
3. Safe sex is a myth. Anything you try will be hazardous to your health.
4. Bring her home late, there’s no next date.
5. If you pull into my driveway and honk, you better be dropping off a package because you’re sure not picking anything up (Alternative rule #5: Only delivery men honk. Dates ring the doorbell. Once.)
6. No complaining while you’re waiting for her. If you’re bored, change my oil.
7. If your pants hang off your hips, I’ll gladly secure them with my staple gun.
8. Dates must be in crowded public places. You want romance? Read a book.

Just a little humor to end our week…..

Summer Vacation Schedule!

“Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” – Mark 6:31

Summer Vacation! A time to get away, rest and enjoy time spent with those that you love. It is important to step back and focus the blessings that God has provided in your lives. We are going to do just that. Our attention will be placed on our wives and our families for the next couple of weeks.

This week….we will be sharing some of the most popular posts.

Next week….find the posts that were the most encouraging to you; and then leave a comment about them.

Be Strong. Act Like Men.

Most Popular Post Countdown – #5

#3 Romantic Need of Your Wife

To Share Intimate Conversation

“The typical couple spends only four minutes a day in meaningful conversation with each other. A lot of us husbands don’t realize that for our wives to consider us romantic, we first of all have to be a great friend and a conversationalist.

Grunts and one-word answers to questions just don’t cut it! Too many women don’t feel that their husbands really need them, and bare-bones conversation confirms their sense of low personal value. Many men who were accomplished at romantic, deep conversation during courtship seem to lose this talent later. You can rediscover the groove! Make a commitment to learn to make intimate conversation a priority with your wife. You need to talk and fill her in on the details of your life — not just facts, but feelings.

When a husband sincerely shows his desire for conversation and a deepening relationship — emotional intimacy — he will find that his wife is much more interested in sexual intimacy. Her dreams, hopes, desires, and disappointments then are not divorced from the marriage bed but are a part of it.”

Is life leading your marriage? Seriously – four minutes a day in a meaningful conversation with each other. How can we possibly create intimacy in our marriages with such a limited about of connection time? And then – what do we do with those four minutes?

Guys – we can do better! Listen. Share. Listen more. Show your wife that she is the most important part of your day by taking time to connect with who she is every day.

Be Strong. Act Like Men