Remember your Creator in the days of your youth, before the days of trouble come and the years approach when you will say, “I find no pleasure in them.” – Ecclesiastes 12:1
There are days—sometimes many of them—when it is hard to remember what it was about your wife that you once found so lovable. Most of us expect a few waves on the voyage to marital bliss. We might even find humor in our wife’s foibles and failings. But what happens when those waves swell into crushing tsunamis? What do we do when our wife falls into a depression, when infertility becomes the only topic of conversation, or when one of us loses a job? When respecting you as God commands becomes non-existent?
What do you do? You must make yourself less and make your wife greater. Yes – depending on the situation – it will be easier said than done. Look carefully at Ecclesiastes 12:1. It doesn’t say, “Remember your Creator just in case the days of trouble come.” It says trouble will come. It comes to everyone sooner or later. That’s not a reason to despair but a reason to shore up our reserves. It is not a reason to quit. It is a reason to work harder.
Open your heart to God’s desire your relationship with your wife. In the midst of all of the troubled times, consider all the things you love about your wife: her heart for broken people, her devotion to God, her tenderness. It is easy for us to miss the good through the bad. Search your heart and rely on God’s strength to help you lead your family.