My wife is my best friend. Our friendship is a tremendous strength in our marriage. We were recently talking about how it creates a togetherness that results in us sticking together during the rough times. Sticking together….
What is a best friendship marriage like? How does God develop it? If we really want to become best friends in our marriage, we must first look at God’s design of friendship and then let the Holy Spirit fill in the strength of friendship.
The first part of friendship is that we must commit ourselves to becoming best friends in our marriage, no matter the cost–we really have to want it.
A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother – Prov. 18:24
Becoming best friends in marriage means that we must become sticky friends. The word used in for “sticks” is the same word used in for “cleaving”: “For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24
“Cleaving” or “sticking” is a commitment to permanency in marriage, to be glued together for life. Without such a permanent bond, best friendships in marriage will eventually disintegrate.
The second part of friendship is a commitment to helping our mate when she needs us.
A friend loves at all times, and a brother [or sister] is born for adversity (Prov. 17:17).
When adversity comes into a marriage, as it will from time to time, the “sticky friend” is there–really there. It’s almost like our best friend was born for such a critical moment. Whatever the adversity, the “sticky friend” rushes headlong into the crisis and brings the sweet counsel of friendship. You see, a “sticky friendship” marriage is not merely formed with the best of intentions. It is formed through adversity.
Be Your Wife’s Best Friend. Act Like Men.