Keeping things or hiding things from your spouse is a sign of problems in a marriage. A healthy marriage is one that is built on total openness and honesty. When it comes to secrets in marriage, there should be none.
Here are some tough questions:
• Do you hide purchases of things you bought from your spouse?
• Do you allow your spouse to read all of your email messages?
• Do you share your passwords to email addresses or Facebook accounts with your spouse?
• Would you allow your spouse to read your text messages on your cell phone if he or she asked?
• Do you hide friendships with people of the opposite sex from your spouse?
• Do you immediately delete all of the messages you get by email, text and Facebook?
I know that for some those are really tough questions. You may not like to hear this, but if you are constantly hiding things from your spouse, my first questions for you would be, “Why?” and “What are you hiding?” If one spouse is hiding things from their spouse, then it sends off all kinds of red flags.
So does my wife read every email, text message or Facebook message I get? No, but she’s welcome to read them anytime she wants. Can she snoop? She can…if she wants, but I have nothing to hide. I hide nothing from her, and I find accountability in the fact that she knows every password to my email and Facebook account.
A healthy marriage is a marriage where spouses don’t hide things from one another. It is one of the main foundations of having a great marriage.
Be Strong. Act Like Men.