Do you really want her to submit?

There are some parts of the Bible that are just awkward for men. Like the part that says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands as you do to the Lord,” or “Husbands [treat your wives] with respect, as the weaker vessel.”
Those verses just make us squirm. It’s easier to act like they don’t exist, or talk about how they don’t really mean “submit” in the sense that we think of. I’ve been there. How do I, as the husband, even think about bringing this verse up?

But the more I studied it, I realized, there’s really a deeper reason I don’t want these verse to be true.
Because, if they’re true, it means I have to be a man my wife can trust. I have to be a leader my wife wants to follow. I have to constantly seek out God to know where He’s directing my family. I have to love my wife well so she doesn’t feel trapped in her submission.

Maybe we’d rather not have these verses be true because it’s a lot easier for husbands if they aren’t. Maybe it’s not God that’s being unfair, but us husbands. Maybe we feel guilty reading these passages because we don’t even know if, given the opportunity, we’d follow ourselves. There’s a whole lot less pressure if we don’t take these passages seriously. We get to share the responsibility of the family with someone else. We don’t have to take all the blame for the direction we’re headed.

But here’s the issue. When Adam and Eve sinned, even though Eve initially ate the apple, who did God come looking for?

But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you? – Genesis 3:9

In the same way, God still asks today, “MAN, where is your family?”

Submission comes naturally only when my wife can trust that GOD is my pursuit

Be Strong. Act Like Men.


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