The tagline and blog title “Be Strong, Act Like Men” may suggest to some, that being strong, that acting tough, that being men, requires you to be independent, to be a rock, to be the guy that needs no one and can go it alone. The idea is probably enforced some in the culture today, especially when you think of some tough guys and heroes in action films we see.
The truth of the matter, though, is that we are better together; we are better in community. But don’t take my word for it. Look it up. Here are 45 verses that extol the virtues of community to start with: http://www.openbible.info/topics/community.
Community can look like a number of different things. There’s the community of corporate worship with a large group of believers. This typically is what we do in churches on Sunday mornings and it is an important element of our discipleship journey. However if we are going to be all we can be, and be the best husband, father, and disciple we can, fulfilling His purpose for our lives, there is another level of community that we need to be engaged in. We need to be connected to a smaller group of believers with whom we can be authentic, vulnerable, and transparent about who we are, what we’ve been through, what we struggle with, and what we want to become. Some churches call these “Small Groups”, or “Life Groups”, “Community Groups”, “Disciple Groups” etc. etc. etc. The basic premise is that we can be more intimate with a smaller group of people; we can go deeper, challenge one another, and hold each other accountable.
The group of people you connect within this setting can vary. It may be a group of couples, where you and your wife will connect with other couples and walk through a season of life together. It may be a group of guys that seek God together and explore how we fulfil our roles as leaders in the home, community, work place, church etc. As a married couple, you can take a combined approach, coming together as group of couples, and from time to time, separate into a men’s and women’s group to address specific topics and challenges that are unique to our gender and our roles as husbands and wives. The group should be small enough so all participants feel comfortable enough to participate and be intimate enough so all can be truly authentic.
Jesus had a small group of 12 that he “did life” with as he performed His public ministry on the earth. From that small group of 13, a movement was launched that changed the world and has been replicated over and over again to His glory.
It may take some time for you to find the right fit of people, and you may need to try a few different groups. But the point of it is this: you need to be connected. You need to be in community. Because out there, alone, you are vulnerable, you are open to attack, and you are likely to drift away from the important people and relationships that matter. So plug in, get connected. Your relationship to God, to your spouse, family and friends, will most certainly be transformed, as a result.