I was running late to work one morning. I had gotten up late. I was grumpy. I had a presentation that morning. I didn’t feel prepared. I forgot to make a lunch. It’s time to leave. I am searching the house for my keys. I am getting even grumpier. I was so distracted by so many other things that I failed to realize that my keys were in my pocket. I was so absorbed in other things and myself that I missed an important part to my morning.
Do you ever feel like you do this with your wife?
Here are 3 things I try to do to be fully present with my wife.
1. Pay Attention
The first thing that came to mind when I came to this realization was that I need to pay more attention to her. I know how I feel when people don’t listen to me or pretend like they listen to me, so I have to apply the Golden Rule. Treat her as I want to be treated. I don’t know about you, but I want to try treat my wife better than I want to be treated.
2. Remember Tomorrow Isn’t Promised
The second thing I do is remember that our time together is limited. What is your mental distraction when you’re with your wife? Is it your responsibilities? Social media? Your smartphone? ESPN? Worries? Whatever it may be remember James 4 which discusses how fleeting life is and that tomorrow isn’t a guarantee for anyone. Make the most of the time you have with your wife by being present.
“For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes.” – James 4:13-14
3. Love Sacrificially
Work to love your wife as Christ loved the church. That Christ-like love that’s being discussed in Ephesians is sacrificial. Whatever is in the way of you two has to be dropped whether your distracting thoughts are positive or negative.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish”. – Ephesians 5:25-27
Be Strong. Act Like Men.