A husband, in his second marriage, commented about his struggles with communicating in a productive manner with his ex-wife. He has been reading the blog because he wants to be a better husband and father, but he believes that being a better man includes working with ex-wife to benefit their children.
I wanted to share this message with you. I know that by simply applying percentages to our readers that we have men leading blended families. Marriage alone is challenging. Add the dynamic of bringing two families together and interacting with ex-spouses can make it very discouraging. I truly believe that the path to being a Godly husband and father includes emulating Christ-like behavior in all areas of our lives.
“…I realized the truth that people can only really control their own behavior. When we focus on our behavior as we walk through our circumstances instead of emphasizing other people’s failures and shortcomings, we can create changes that affect our relationships long-term” – Nina Rosener, The Respect Dare
Improving a co-parenting relationship with an ex-spouse starts with you. You do not have the ability to control another person’s behavior. It is incumbent to make changes in yourself that will ultimate impact those around us. You have to take a Christ-like approach toward your ex-spouse. We are challenged to apply this in every aspect of our lives. It just seems harder in this situation.
In 2 John the Bible encourages, no – commands, us to love one another. “And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands. As you have heard from the beginning, his command is that you walk in love.”
Part 2: we’ll share tomorrow about how to get this process started.
Be Strong. Act Like Men.