No Time Together is Destroying Your Marriage

I know busy couples can carve out time for each other. I also know couples with plenty of free time who spend almost no time together. It is easier to have time together when your schedule is not crowded, but you still have to be intentional about doing it.

• Quantity Time: You need a good deal of time together, and you need some big blocks of time. For more than a month, Lori and I have had an afternoon coffee date at a local cafe. No agenda, no hard start or ending time, just hanging out together.

• Communication: Good communication is the lifeblood of your marriage. Good communication takes time – unhurried time.

• Acts of Service: You do not have to do these together, but they do take time.

• Non-Sexual Touch: A quick hug is good, but she needs more – as do you. For a good, healthy relationship, you need times of prolonged touch.

• Sex: A lack of sex puts a huge stress on your marriage. She needs the things above to want and enjoy sex. Just making time for sex is not going to end well; you need to make time for all the rest.

Most marriages are hurting because the couple does not have enough time together. Failure to address this is saying you are okay with a mediocre marriage. It is also accepting the risk of adultery and divorce.

If you are committed to being a better husband, you must find a way to spend enough time with your bride. What are you willing to sacrifice for that?

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2 thoughts on “No Time Together is Destroying Your Marriage

  1. “Most marriages are hurting because the couple does not have enough time together. Failure to address this is saying you are okay with a mediocre marriage. It is also accepting the risk of adultery and divorce.” BINGO! I think it is hard for some to realize that honoring God in your marriage is about building your TEAM. When I played on a sports league, I put in plenty of time in honing my skill. Think of your marriage as a sacred playing field and you are on the same team. All the points you mentioned are essential! Nice to meet another CMBA member.

    • Thanks for you comment!!

      I think you’ve presented a great analogy about preparing for your marriage like you would prepare for a game. It is very true. We invest time in researching and preparing for so many different things, and then we fail to invest the same (or more effort) into our marriages.

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