Who’s right? Who’s wrong? How do you decide?

It is very easy to answer these questions.  She’s wrong.  I am right.  How do I know?

Seriously –it is because I know what I am talking about.  Right?

We need to deal with the nagging questions that immediately comes up when working with the issue of being right.  How do you handle the feeling that you’re giving up something by letting the other person win or have their own way – even when you know that you’re right?

What is more important?  Is it the desire to prove to them that you were right or improve the relationship?  It should be the relationship first.  Do we do that consistently?  I know that I struggle with it.  Why do I need to prove that I am right to the point that I let the discussion switch from a problem that needs to be resolved to a competition to prove my point?  Ultimately – you finish the right vs. wrong discussion only to discover that you never resolved the issue and your marriage was the loser.

How can you possibly build marital oneness if you are in a constant battle to prove each other wrong?   You must choose to become a couple instead of merely two individuals on opposing sides.  If we can learn to become a team, us versus the problem, instead of being against each other, then a solution that works for both parties can be found.  Everyone wins and the marriage is strengthened.

“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” — Philippians 2:3-4

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