But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven where moth and rust do not destroy and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also – Matthew 6:19
What Jesus is saying that you can’t separate your passion from your treasure. Wherever you’re putting the best elements of your life that displays where your passions are. Where do you give the best of your time and talents?
In a dating relationship, a man and woman tend to give their best to each other. They invest in the relationship. They listen. They think about each other all the time. They fall in love. They work hard to show kindness and romance. They get engaged. They get married. They devote the best of their lives into each other.
And then…..children, careers, hobbies…..basically life takes over. It is easy to place our focus elsewhere other than our spouse. I’ll save the lecture on not prioritizing your relationship with God for another time!
Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken the love you had at first. Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first – Revelation 2:4
Jesus is talking about returning to your first love. When you fall in love with your spouse but then lose that love, it’s never because the love has just gone away. It is always because you have transferred it elsewhere: children, careers, hobbies or another person.
Jesus refuses to be second-place. The best of our lives should go to Him (sorry I couldn’t wait), but after that, our greatest investment should be poured into our marriage.
If your passion has decreased in marriage, it’s because you stopped investing in it. That means it’s time to return to your first love and “do the things you did at first.”
Examine how you’ve changed, and what caused it. Did you have unrealistic expectations? Did something disappoint you and cause you to turn your heart away? Did you become lazy or start taking your spouse for granted?
Remember how you treated your future spouse when you first met. Remember the way you listened and how much you talked. Remember how much you valued and honored him or her. Remember how hard you worked on your relationship.
Return to your first love. For lasting passion, return the best parts of your life to your marriage.
Guys…it’s a good investment.