Genesis 2:24-25 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
The first law is Priority—the man leaves his father and mother. The marriage has to come first. It doesn’t rank behind a job, or hobbies, or even parents or children. Marriage has to have priority.
The second law is Pursuit—the husband and wife must “be joined,” or cleave together. In the original Hebrew, that word means to pursue with all of your energy. Marriage is work. You have to work at the relationship. You can’t take each other for granted. When you both put your energy into it, the relationship will thrive.
The third law is Possession—the two become one flesh. Marriage is about sharing. You share finances, decision-making, thoughts and emotions. You cannot be selfish and have a thriving marriage. You can’t be dominant either. A dominant spouse says, “I’m in control. I’m not sharing.” That destroys the spirit of a relationship.
God intended marriages to follow the laws of priority, pursuit, and possession.