“The road to hell is paved with good intentions” – John Ray, 1670
We have good intentions….like loving our wives, parenting our children and being good Christians. Good intentions produce very little unless we are intentional.
Intentional loving on your part, not waiting to receive that from your partner, is the way back to the intimate oneness type love that God intends. When you do something pleasing for your partner, serotonin is released in their brain, helping them to feel relaxed and happy. Giving is more powerful than receiving. When you give and nurture another person, you also tend to feel more attached and more loving toward him or her. When you receive nurturing, you may appreciate it and feel loved, but that may not translate into loving feelings toward that other person.
Act “as if” your partner is already loving you the way you desire. Act “as if” you are an ideal lover and your partner is totally pleased. Feel that confidence in your mind and your thoughts and your body. Stop resisting change. Open your heart to your partner more often. Instead of digging in your heels and clinging to your own ideas, listen, say yes, and learn from the one you love.
Love intentionally. Love with the purpose of serving and healing. Love and honor your wife.
Love with the same love that God has shown you.
Be Strong. Love Like Men.