“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NAS)
1) We can take an interest in what’s going on where we each spend a great deal of time, our workplaces. If you wife stays home, then take interest in her day. Ask her questions and then listen.
2) A great way to forge bonds of friendship is to share an interest. What do you both like to do? You may need to think about what you did while you were dating. Find something that you enjoy and make it a regular thing that you do together. It’s easy to let the day-in and day-out responsibilities of life to crowd out time for relaxation and laughter, so you’ll have to make the choice to have fun together.
3) We need to ask ourselves if we’re making friendship with our spouse a priority. Do we save our best energy for developing friendship with our spouse or are we too busy or tired? Sometimes we have to say no to other pursuits so we can have time to protect and nurture the gift of friendship in marriage.
The seeds of friendship we plant today will continue to bloom later in our marriages. We’ve all seen older couples sitting at restaurant tables, eating their entire meal in complete silence. I don’t want to look like those silent couples sitting in a restaurant, and I’m sure you don’t either. I want to grow old relishing my friendship with my wife, a friendship forged over years of sharing interests and making each other a priority.