Did you hear the commercial for the teddy bear? If you gave your wife a giant 8 foot tall teddy bear for Valentine’s Day, then you would get lucky? It’s true. We’ve cracked the code!
Actually – I would challenge you with this: if buying a teddy bear leads to a rare special moment; then you are doing it wrong and need to focus on a better technique. So…if the teddy bear isn’t the answer; then maybe we can use the scripture to help our cause:
“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. 1 Corinthians 7
Paul writes to the church encouraging those who are married to mutually give themselves to each other physically. Don’t hold anything back. Her body is not her own. It belongs to you, so there you go. Giddy up!
Guys….it starts long before the moment is right. Yes – the Bible says that you should not deprive each other. But if you value the command to love your wife like Christ loved the church; then you shouldn’t deprive her of the things that she needs that will help you with what you need. I want to share a portion of an article written by Dennis Rainey called “Five Romantic Needs of a Woman”. I will share the five points; and then we will discuss them another day after you’ve had sometime to generate your own thoughts about them.
#1: To be spiritually ministered to by her man
#2: To feel safe and secure with her husband
#3: To share intimate conversation
#4: To receive a tender touch and hear gentle words
#5: To be pursued and set apart by her man