We’ve talked about fighting fair by creating mutual rules of engagement. We need to be prepared to tackle those issues that will arise in a marriage, so having defined an approach to conflict is a great idea.
But…what if you are already stuck in a cycle to negativity and hurt?
I’ll give you an alternative. Set your problems aside for a little bit. Don’t talk about them at all. Don’t bring them up…not even once. Put your energy into trying to connect. Spend your time and energy doing specific relationship building activities. Things that you enjoy together.
It sounds backwards. Solve the problems; and then everything will be better. Isn’t that the way it is supposed to work? I challenge you to step outside of the traditional thinking. By focusing on building good will with your spouse and creating a positive connection – you might find that your issues become smaller while creating a greater feeling of oneness in your marriage.
”If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” – Ecclesiastes 4:10
Stand up together and enjoy each other!