What you focus on in your life eventually materializes and becomes your reality?
If you focus on negative things or things you don’t want, then you tend to notice and attract much of those things in your life. If you focus on positive things or things you want, you tend to notice and attract much of the same in your life.
But… you may be wondering why I am telling you all of this? How does this apply to my marriage?
In order to have the marriage you want, you need to focus on the kind of marriage you want vs. focusing on the kind of marriage you don’t want. It’s as simple as that. By focusing on what you want – the positives in your marriage – you start to notice more positive things in your marriage and also, end up creating a more positive marriage.
If you focus on a quality you don’t like about your wife, then I bet you could think of even more qualities you don’t like about her. As a result, you may see her and treat her based on your already negative perception of her.
If on the other hand, you focused on qualities that you admire and like about your wife, then you could think of even more qualities you like and admire about her. As a result, you will see her and treat her based on positive realities of her. This change leads to you treating her in a positive way which could lead to her making changes in the way she sees and treats you.
A good quote to remember and apply:
“The person who works well four days out of five ought to be praised four times as often as he’s dumped on. But guess what. That’s exactly the opposite of what happens. The 80% of the time that he works well will simply go without comment because that’s what he’s supposed to be doing.” – Fran Tarkenton
Be Strong. Act Like Men