Mike and Mike on ESPN where having people call in with unpopular opinions this week. It covered all sorts of things….sport, politics, etc. I thought it would be fun to offer an unpopular opinion about marriage.
Unpopular opinion #1: Our wives should be submitting themselves to their husbands.
It says so: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” (Ephesians 5:22)
How’s that working in your marriage? Let’s break it down…..
Does it bother your wife that God is the head of Christ? Probably not
Does it bother her that Christ is the head of man? No, in fact, she probably loves it and prays it will be more realized every day.
Does it bother your wife that the man is the head of a woman? Most likely. Of course it bothers her. But why? I imagine it is partially the culture that says a woman is not to be controlled by any man – girl power! I imagine that it is partly her sinful nature. Pray about those, but let’s focus on ourselves and the importance of our submission and attitude of servant leadership that will ultimately lead to our wives submission.
God has given us authority over our wives; however how many times do we take that responsibility and misuse it? We find it easy to point out that “the man is the head of the woman” while ignoring the first part of that verse. “Christ is the head of every man.”
Unpopular opinion #2: If you are not submitting yourselves to God; then you are acting worse than a wife that is not submitting herself to you.
Headship in your marriage is about order not who is better or more important. The husband is the head of the wife in his family and he has the responsibility of guiding his family to a closer relationship with the Lord. Headship is not about having the upper hand nor does it mean that your wife has no rights or say in the marriage. Take a few minutes in Ephesians 5…and God will make it abundantly clear about His commands to the husband.
Submit yourself in your relationship with God with all your heart. Through your leadership – she will see that you are allowing yourself to be lead by God. It will be easier for her to follow your lead.
Be Strong. Submit Like Men.