“Do not let any unwholesome talk come from your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up others according to their needs, that it may benefit those that listen” – Ephesians 4:29
It is one of my favorite verses. It is great advice. And yet – it is a challenge for me at times.
Not in the good times. Not in the easy times. Not on my wedding day. I included this in my written vows to my wife:
“I promise to always speak to your potential, to lift you up…..”
It is the difficult times that I find that challenge my talk. It is when maybe I am frustrated or not getting my way. It is when I feel like I have been harmed by words or when I feel the need to defend myself.
We know that it is not right. We know that it is not loving or respectful. I wish I could share a foolproof solution for making sure that you speak kind, loving words that build your spouse up. I don’t. I simply challenge you to memorize this verse with me. Let’s place it in our hearts, and maybe our hearts will override our mouths in those difficult moments.
Imagine the change that we can make in our marriages if we can simply control the unwholesome talk coming from our mouths!
Be Strong. Act Like Men