“Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” – Mark 6:31
Summer Vacation! A time to get away, rest and enjoy time spent with those that you love. It is important to step back and focus the blessings that God has provided in your lives. We are going to do just that. Our attention will be placed on our wives and our families for the next couple of weeks.
This week….we will be sharing some of the most popular posts.
Next week….find the posts that were the most encouraging to you; and then leave a comment about them.
Be Strong. Act Like Men.
#3 Romantic Need of Your Wife
To Share Intimate Conversation
“The typical couple spends only four minutes a day in meaningful conversation with each other. A lot of us husbands don’t realize that for our wives to consider us romantic, we first of all have to be a great friend and a conversationalist.
Grunts and one-word answers to questions just don’t cut it! Too many women don’t feel that their husbands really need them, and bare-bones conversation confirms their sense of low personal value. Many men who were accomplished at romantic, deep conversation during courtship seem to lose this talent later. You can rediscover the groove! Make a commitment to learn to make intimate conversation a priority with your wife. You need to talk and fill her in on the details of your life — not just facts, but feelings.
When a husband sincerely shows his desire for conversation and a deepening relationship — emotional intimacy — he will find that his wife is much more interested in sexual intimacy. Her dreams, hopes, desires, and disappointments then are not divorced from the marriage bed but are a part of it.”
Is life leading your marriage? Seriously – four minutes a day in a meaningful conversation with each other. How can we possibly create intimacy in our marriages with such a limited about of connection time? And then – what do we do with those four minutes?
Guys – we can do better! Listen. Share. Listen more. Show your wife that she is the most important part of your day by taking time to connect with who she is every day.
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Being a father is challenging work. Just like being a loving husband it requires persistence, forgiveness and lots of patience. And yet….it is one of the greatest things a man can be in someone’s life.
Happy Father’s Day.
The highlight of my Cub Scout career was the Pinewood Derby. My father and I would work together to design and build the cars. He introduced me to the world of hammers, drills, tape measures and sandpaper. It was where I first learned to appreciate building or fixing something with my own effort.
My father said to me once – that he wasn’t very good at home improvement things like my brothers and I were (a comment from the same man that would pull a clothes dryer apart to tighten a drive belt). It was watching and helping our dad that gave us all the confidence to try it for ourselves. It is the small moments that life lessons are learned between a father and a son.
I don’t remember whether my Pinewood Derby cars won or not. However, I will always remember the time spent with my father working on them. And every time that I accomplish a home improvement project or repair – I will remember the lessons and time spent with my dad.
Genesis 18:19 – “For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just, so that the LORD will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him.”
Happy Father’s Day.
Have you ever thought about grapes being turned into wine? Can you imagine what it would be like to be one of those grapes?
Yes….it is odd. You’ve met me…so play along with me here for a moment.
Can you imagine what it would be like to be plucked, pushed, crushed, pressed, skinned, and fermented? That’s got to hurt. What’s the point of it all?
A lot of people feel that way about the pain they experience in their marriage. “Why am I doing this? Where is this relationship going?” But just as a grape goes through a difficult process before it becomes a fine wine, sometimes our marriage has to go through a painful process before it matures.
The people who have the best marriages are not people who grew up well-adjusted, have healthy adult lives, and normal parents. People like that usually have good marriages.
The greatest marriages are between those who were crushed, who went through a painful process, and who built their relationship from the ruins of broken hearts.
“Those who sow in tears will reap harvest in glad song.” Psalm 126:5
And so it is that pain is often the preview to pleasure. No pain. No gain.
Don’t believe me….if your wife has experienced child birth, then she can testify to this truth.
Be Strong. Act Like Men.
Hi Everyone…..it’s been a crazy week. I haven’t posted anything for a week. I’ve got the day off. I am sitting out back drinking my coffee, reading my devotional and listening to the birds. I enjoy working in the garden. Plenty of cucumbers and tomatoes on the way….hard to have patience!
I’ve learned over the years that the key to a weed free lawn isn’t to focus on eliminating the weeds, but to focus on keeping the grass lush and thick. Strong grass chokes out the weeds and prevents them from growing.
I read this verse this morning: “Other seeds fell on fertile soil, and the produced a crop that was thirty, sixty and even a hundred times as much as had been planted” – Matthew 13:8
It talks about the parable of the farmer that scattered seeds over several places. Some fell on the path and were eaten by the birds. Some fell in shallow rocky soil producing shoots but shallow roots caused them to wither and die in the hot sun. Others were choked out by nasty weeds. And thankfully…some seeds landed in fertile soils and produced an abundant crop.
We have seeds that we plant in our lives everyday….the thoughts we have, the people we associate with or the things that we allow to influence our lives. All can either strengthen us or weaken us.
The more good thoughts, people and influences that we have in our life the more likely we can choke out the bad things that are trying to harm us. We need to focus on the good and the pure. Paul suggests in Philippians 4:8…the better chance the weeds of temptation and evil will not gain a foothold in our thoughts and lives.
It only takes a single weed….one weak spot….leading to an uncontrollable amount of weeds. It doesn’t happen over night. It is preventable and can be cured. Make sure that you aren’t encouraging weeds to crop up in your mind, your attitude and the things you do. Protect you marriage and your family. Surround yourself with positive influences and be a positive influence for those around you.
God’s not waiting for you to find another way to fill a void in your life. He’s waiting for you to receive the fulfillment He’s already made available to you….